Ok so this time around this post is more about me than my wife but first I will give you all an update on my wife and the pregnancy. So far so good! Pregnancy is tracking right where it should be and no complications have arisen. Mandy was a bit under the weather starting Thursday and continuing through Mother’s day but by Saturday she improved greatly. We are thinking since there is a norovirus outbreak close to the area we live that is what she had. On Thursday she couldn’t keep anything down and was puking bile all day and night, and on Friday the vomiting was minimal but she still couldn’t stomach much and by Saturday she was back to eating somewhat normal, though feeling a little nauseous still. Saturday was a surrogate lunch in Sacramento that was put together by Northwest Surrogacy for all the surrogates and a +1 in the area to attend. The meal was catered and served by Ten22 in Old town Sacramento and it was delicious! Also, I tried a local beer on draft that was really good called American River Hefeweizen. I think a brewery tour is in order! This event was really nice to attend and it was nice to meet and talk with the founders of Northwest Surrogacy Center, or NWSC. We both had a very nice time chatting with other local surrogates, all at varying stages in the surrogacy process and we might have scared some of what is to come along in the process, but Mandy does really well at reassuring others that it isn’t as bad as it sounds. After the lunch, we headed home and enjoyed the rest of the evening.
Shifting gears I have an update on a change in my life that I am going through. I am not at a weight that I am proud of, or that is healthy for me so I have decided that I want to loose some weight and go at it head on. To help me loose the weight I have adopted a ketogenic diet. For those of you who don’t know what a Ketogenic diet is I’ll sum it up for you. I will be limiting my carbohydrate intake to about 20g a day and I will get the majority of my calories from fats (about 70%) the rest will come from protein (25%) Carbs (5%). That means no bread 🙁 no grains 🙁 no ice cream :(…you get the point. In the end, though John gets skinny and healthy :))! Which is well worth it. If you want more info on the diet ruled.me is a great resource for knowledge and recipes that make this diet that much easier.
I want to be able to keep up with my rapidly growing toddler and I don’t want to be limited to activities based on my weight. I want to live a long and healthy life and I can’t do that being in the morbidly obese range. I’m 5’10” and weigh 284lbs. That is a drop of 8lbs in two weeks of being on the keto diet, which is some good progress. My goal is to weigh 210lbs by March 5, 2018. Ultimately I want to weigh in the 170lb-180lb range which is at the top of the weight for my height but I feel like it is a good weight for my build. I hope to share my progress with you along the way and I will most likely create a separate page on MWTS just for that.
To keep up with this diet I have to plan all my meals out in advance so that I can make sure I’m getting all the macronutrients I need to be successful as losing the weight. With this planning, it has increased my mood and also I believe that it has improved my relationship with my wife. I’m not going to lie I was wearing her down with my lack of drive, she was unhappy that I didn’t have the motivation to be healthy or that I showed little interest in taking care of myself but once I went balls to the wall with this diet plan and set my goals everything started turning around for the better. I have a lot to prove and I need to finish what I started to prove to myself and to my lovely wife that I can because many times before I would quit some short time in. This isn’t the man my wife deserves. I can give her so much better, and I am. I don’t have no excuse, no reason why I slumped so far, but I am more than grateful that Mandy has stuck with me, that she hasn’t given up on me and the only way I see fit to repay that is to make her effort worth her while. She is the love of my life, the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, she is my best friend. She is a wonderful wife and an amazing mother to our child. I won the jackpot here folks and I’m blessed for her every day.
The older I get, the more I realize what I want in life, and it isn’t to make more money or to have an amazing career but rather I want to have a beautiful relationship with my family. Sure it would be nice to have nice things and a big house, with a big yard, and money in the bank, but those things don’t mean a damn thing with nobody to share the experience with. I want to have spent my time wisely here and I want to spend it all on my wife and child. I can always earn more money, but I can NEVER earn more time. So the most important thing in my life right now is to be able to spend as much time as I can with my family.